Episode 156: The Cost Of Saying Yes
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In Our Conversation Today, We’re Exploring:
The real reasons we may be saying yes, even when we’re overextended
How to offer a reason for our “no” without overexplaining
What the reasons we say “yes” can teach us about ourselves
What happens when we say yes to more than what’s good for us?
What happens when we feel exhausted or that we’ve got too much going on but find ourselves saying yes again and again?
Saying yes requires an understanding of our capacity, our boundaries, and the space we need to care for ourselves. It also requires honest reflection about whether we’ve taken on more than we can do well.
Yes has a cost.
And that cost can come in the form of our time, our mental health, and even the quality of our work.
Each yes can also slow us down in finishing something else. While we may think we’re doing our team a favor, we’re also missing an opportunity to model delegation and boundary-setting for others.
It’s also helpful to explore what we believe will happen if we say no.
Do we think we are the only person who can do it?
Do we think we’ll be seen as someone who’s not a team player, who lacks ambition, or who has become irrelevant?
Whatever stories we tell ourselves about the consequences of our “no” deserve our investigation. When we reflect on these stories we can decide if we believe them and whether there are alternatives to them that allow us to say no.
So, it’s worth exploring what we’re really saying yes to and what that yes means for ourselves and others.
Plus: we explore a bit about Robert Kegan’s Immunity to Change Process and Nayla and Eric enjoy some tattoo talk (including their temporary and permanent tattoo choices).
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