Episode 129: If You're Feeling Jaded

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We open today with a discussion of school supplies including Eric’s Tottenham Hotspur pencil case and Nayla's current, jaded feeling toward selecting the just-right writing utensils. We move on to explore the experience of feeling jaded at work: How it illuminates things for us, how it gets in our way, and how we can change the pattern if we want to do so.

When we offer workshops at organizations where people are experiencing workplace disruption, we hold space for employees to express feelings of worry, bitterness, skepticism, and betrayal. We’re always looking for ways to shift from “misery loves company”-style camaraderie to constructive behavior to protect ourselves and our team from the negativity at work (without stepping into toxic positivity!). We know cynicism is both real and potentially contagious - so what do we do?

Two key parts of our inside work here are pinpointing the tipping point event that made us feel skeptical, cynical or jaded in the first place, and turning our fixed beliefs into hypotheses we can evaluate further. These practices build our muscles for staying in curiosity longer, pausing before we create detrimental stories, and enhancing resilience.

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In Our Conversation Today, We’re Exploring:

  • The difference between cynicism and skepticism when it comes to our work lives

  • How feeling jaded can be an invitation to consider what we don’t want to experience anymore

  • How to learn what we can from feeling jaded and take steps that will serve us in the future

  • Why it’s important to carefully choose your company (those you connect with, not just your organization)

  • What to do if you’re feeling consistently betrayed and are having trouble trusting your organization

  • How we connect a “Staples run” for school supplies to today’s topic, the Tottenham Hotspurs, and the movie Talladega Nights

Resources

  • To be replaced? —> Dr. Rick Hansen: https://www.rickhanson.net/be-mind-full-good/

    “Meanwhile, your brain is rapidly and efficiently turning unpleasant, negative experiences – feeling frazzled, stressed, worried, frustrated, irritated, inadequate, hurt, etc. – into the neural structure. To help our ancestors survive in harsh conditions, the brain evolved a negativity bias that makes it good at learning from bad experiences but relatively bad at learning from good ones – even though learning from good experiences is the main way to grow the inner strengths we all need.”

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